Why is it that people who generally behave badly are accepted as such and people who are generally respectful and empathetic toward others are judged if they have a so-called 'emotional' moment of weakness and react out of character?
It seems quite unfair and hypocritical and yet a fairly common thing. It's no reason to become a narcissist, but sometimes it seems that life would be easier as one.
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The other side of the coin, when people are surprised it also says they are used to the very best from you. In other words "oh behave".
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So unless you're 'nice' and 'good' all the time you don't stand a chance. So better to set everyone's expectations low and then they won't be disappointed? Yikes.
So the message here (one more time) is not to be unduly influenced by other peoples' opinions... and simply suck it up if someone becomes critical. And keep on thickening the skin...
Interesting......here's my take on it......Could it be that "nice" people make everyone feel pretty good about the world,with them around we can excuse the "not nice" people knowing all is still ok in the world. Then.....when the "nice" person acts out of character....it induces a fear that maybe everything's going to hell in a handbasket! Oh great, now I'm not so sure everything's ok .....the "nice" person isn't making me feel good anymore! How dare the nice person do that!!
It's alot of pressure on us "nice" people. Yeesh!
It's only because the world expects better from 'nice' people, so it's actually a backhanded compliment!
If you are a total douche-bag most of the time, people expect nothing, and a sentimental moment is celebrated and revered as to encourage it happening more often.
So unfair.
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